We all encounter obstacles in our lives. The difference is whether we treat them as roadblocks or tollbooths. A roadblock does not allow us to continue, but with a tollbooth we continue at a price.
A study of 415 top leaders found that 392 of them had suffered great difficulties along the way to where they are today. Far from being handed their prominence on a silver platter, these folks overcame problems that would have, and probably did, discourage many others. Nobody is guaranteed success, but everyone is guaranteed obstacles. The difference is how we handle them. Do we treat them as roadblocks or tollbooths?
We need to teach our children that ability is not the key factor in success, persistence is. Encourage them to face problems on their own and push through them trying different solutions. They need to learn they can overcome obstacles. They may have to change or learn a new skill. After all there is a price for a toll booth. Never solve a problem (opportunity) for them. That would just be robbing them of a step in growth.
Teach them to approach the issues of life not as roadblocks but as tollbooths, and encourage them to find a way to pay the toll and keep on moving.
Blessings on your parenting,
Tim Miesner, Principal